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If I Want What You Have, I'll Ask

It is an interesting study in human sociology how some people naturally assert themselves and their opinions as a way of existing. See them coming and know a lecture is about to unfold.

It is equally interesting how those who act like that prey particularly fastidiously upon those who do not live in such a way. It is assumed, apparently, that those who try to live quiet and peaceable lives do not think things through, are ignorant, less informed, or just wrong and need enlightenment. Whether the topic is dental health, vaccines, general health, working on one's off day, how many cars to own, or when to leave for college after break...the list is quite seemingly, never-ending. 

This writer suspects it is payback for her younger years when she shared her opinions and advice, unwarranted, with somewhat reckless abandon. 


Sometimes one just wants to make family t-shirts with GPAs, dental health records, vaccine status and relationship statuses listed to ward off all the critiquing, criticisms and generally unasked-for input. It isn't that some of the information isn't useful, but the trouble is when people continually give their unsolicited advice and share their opinions. It is then we see it is their duty to correct the troubled paths of others. 

I mean, it is nice that there are people who've clearly got it 'all figured out'. So helpful.

The rest of us will continue to meander through life celebrating whatever meager successes we can carve out during our misguided time here on earth.

Not Wasting Time on Other People's Hang-ups

If there is one thing that hasn't been the easiest concept for me to grasp, it is not wasting time on other people's obsessions, hang-ups, stumbling blocks...call it what you will, but it is something a person is rather consumed by and which there mind won't be changed on. 

Blind spots could encompass what is being referred to here, but obsession is more my jam right now. I recall having a Sunday School teacher years ago who began to see certain Scriptures differently. It can happen; years of studying, the Lord opens our eyes to see things in a new light. Still within the realm of orthodoxy, but different than we once saw it. That is the beauty of a living text. God knows when, what, and how to reveal the truths to us. The thing is, this individual didn't realize that we were not all being moved in the same way at the same time on the issue he was feeling VERY enlightened about. 

When there is a Christian issue that people differ on, if it isn't a matter of salvation and it is one in which the person does not have a teachable spirit, tread carefully. Maturity and wisdom should lead and help us see that it just isn't worthwhile to wade in those waters. Am I saying truth doesn't matter? Of course not, it certainly does, but there are people who are genuinely only interested in changing other people's minds, not truly willing to have their own mind changed. In cases such as that, don't waste your time, is what I'm saying. 

Is it casting one's pearls before swine? Well, it all depends on what the topic is and who is receiving the unwanted input. If it is an unbeliever who is hostile and has hardened their heart to the truth, yes, they may turn and tear you to pieces. A brother or sister in Christ wouldn't do that, but it could be a waste of time that brings division where it doesn't need to be.

The Bible is wrought with events relevant to the time in which they were written, and it foretold events in the near future to the time in which it was talking about. At the same time, those Scriptures can reveal prophetic truths for dates much later. That is the amazing thing about the Almighty God. His living word fulfilled things that have happened and reveals truths to come. If someone doesn't see that, leave it to the Holy Spirit to one day show them. 






LINK ERROR---Convenient.

I'm not sure how this happened but as with all things computer related, errors occur. I'm sure I must have clicked the wrong one. The link was supposed to go to a story about a virus (monkey pox) on airplanes and the author acted like masks are the answer. It was despicable and clearly geared toward more fear-mongering. The article was poorly written--sensationalist and biased; it was on Yahoo. I can't find the story now (checked Reuters, AP and a UK article) but this link was supposed to go there. 

To be clear: we at ACL are all for any pro-life measure and anything limiting the insanity of CRT.

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Do You Really Believe This?

I mean, there is sensationalism then there is this. 🤯🤯🤯

How do people live with themselves?




Scam in Fredericksburg or Something Else?

Over the summer a local bookstore owner sold her shop to a new lady in town, and urged us all to donate to help this new gal out. Being friends, Christians, and homeschoolers who want a local store carrying used curricula, many of us pitched in--I far moreso than I would normally have done. I took 100 items over to the new resale shop. The deal was that I'd get half of what sold--simple book consignment. Since I contribute to our monthly budget nearly every month, it was a worthwhile venture even though I generally focus on selling skin care/cosmetics and ebaying.

Whenever I stopped by the store, however, it was closed more than half the time. No sign, no notice, just closed. Hard for folks to shop when a store is unreliable.

Fast forward from Oct to Dec and I had a balance and was told the check would be mailed to me. The end of Dec came, and no check. In January word got out that the store was closing and we only found out because a friend of mine stopped in and found everything boxed up. Here it is February and I've not heard back from the owner about my books or money even though I've emailed her numerous times.

It turns out I am not alone in this experience. It is appearing as though a scam artist came in to town, took advantage of some gullible Christians, and moved on. She may have been overwhelmed with the store and closed, or she may have planned this. Who can know for sure? She has remained silent. I'm the type to try to give the benefit of doubt, but we've all had hard times and in this era of internet and cell phones, reaching out is not difficult. Not reaching out is intentional.


As Christians we're to be as shrewd as serpents and as innocent as doves, and in this case, many of us were not shrewd.

The consignors are owed an explanation and the opportunity to get their materials back. The silence has gone beyond "we made a mistake in buying the shop and are in financial trouble". It now appears that dishonestly is in play and people have been taken advantage of. Most people in this town would understand a poor business decision, hardship, marital trouble or the like, but we should have been told us what was going on with our items and the store. The items were not damaged or stolen by a thief who broke in the store. In good conscious, we all should have been given the opportunity to retrieve our materials because the store owner did not uphold her end of the deal, which was to provide a venue and reasonable time for the items to sell.

My guess is that most of the families who brought their items to the shop needed the money, yet by now they probably would just appreciate honesty and integrity more than cash or their books. But I am also willing to guess that is not the case for everybody.

You only get one chance to make a first impression, but that does not negate righting wrongs.

Blood Moons 9/28/15

An earlier post I shared regarding The Harbinger runs along a similar vein, but this link goes to a pointed article full of sound thinking from pastor and teacher, John MacArthur.

It is worth considering.

This link originally went to a post which isn't there anymore, but this short video by Nathan Busenitz is! 

Reviews of The Harbinger

For those who want to be biblically sound, here are a few links to read regarding The Harbinger. We can get all we need about God's judgment from the Bible. We are already under His judgment. The key is to personally repent of our sins and spread the gospel message because everyone is going to die at some point.

Lighthouse Trails Research

Worldview Weekend on The Harbinger

The Berean Call

Apprising Ministries

Difficult Times Will Come

Difficult Times Will Come-

1 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these. 6 For among them are those who enter into households and captivate weak women weighed down with sins, led on by various impulses, 7 always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 3 New American Standard Bible

Part 1:

The verses that have inspired me to write tonight are to be found in 2 Timothy 3:5-7: Holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power....so many today find 'power' in many things that are not godly. In this era of the Internet, everyone writing is a self-proclaimed expert on this remedy or that formula. Mysticism has crept in to the church in various forms to the point people find themselves worrying about missing 'this' secret cure or 'that' key to why life is out of control. Many women are drawn in to this, and without discernment, the waters of godliness can quickly become murky. Are we sure we can determine what is a 'form' of godliness vs. true godliness? I can assure you of this, being convinced of something isn't necessarily the way to tell, nor is having a 'personal conviction'.
 
It was not long ago I asked my husband, who God has graciously given the gifts of wisdom and discernment to, about whether people can have false 'personal convictions'. He seemed a tad surprised at my asking, immediately responding that yes, of course, and that is how most cults begin--a false personal conviction. That gave me pause, and made sense. We need God's word to guide and direct us.


Part 2:

"weak women captivated, always learning but never coming to the knowledge of truth"

...this is my loose paraphrase but it encompasses what I long to warn Christian women about. We are often weak minded. We are easily led astray. Psychological reasoning resonates with us and we justify sometimes questionable ideas because part of it may make good, common sense. We women often lack the logical side of thinking, and if we are extroverted, we do not think deeply, enough, seeking the truth from God's word. I'm not down on women: I am one and I'm raising two. But I see what the gentler sex struggles with and the older I get the pattern has not changed, especially with young women. I'm also not down on extroverts, but the reality is that introverts are the deeper thinkers among us. 

It is not men of homeschooling wives who spend hoards of hours pouring over various methods of education and various curricula for YEARS on end-- debating, questioning, critiquing...it is women, and usually those that can talk for days about such things struggle to actually "come to the knowledge of the truth". Do the hard work, pick something and do it, every day.
 
In closing, please be wise and careful with who you get advice from and who you spend a lot of time with. 



Kids and Respect

This won't be exhaustive, but I wanted to share about raising kids to be respectful and some areas that it matters. I've noticed that young adults who were allowed to second-guess or sass their parents are rather difficult beings to interact with. They don't have a natural respect for those who are older, they have more of a 'if you earn it, I'll respect you' attitude. This kind of negative thinking is easy to form in children, especially if they are only raised by a mother. Women don't notice disrespect as quickly as men do, in general. Subtle tones, ways of questioning...these nuances can be lost on the gentler sex, particularly if she is preoccupied. Men see problems in young men fast, they understand them and too often we ladies want to be more gentle or talk things out more...boys respond well to action that reveals they have been caught in their sinful attitudes. When young children are permitted to question their parents in a disrespectful way, or comment disrespectfully on things their parents do, it lays a foundation for attitude problems later. I think daughters are more apt to this sort of disrespect..."Mom you really spent a LOT at the store!" or just second-guessing what Mom does or how she runs the house. If this type of behavior is allowed to fester, look out later on.

When I was growing up, the relationship between kids and adults was so different. No one was chums with their parents or their friend's parents. We respected them and they acted like adults, not kids. It was the same between kids and their aunts and uncles. I recall my Aunt correcting me just like she would her own child, and that sort of thing was welcomed. In today's world, it's more likely when a kids gets in trouble, the parent is siding with the child and not the adult (think: teachers, relatives, neighbors). It is a sad state of affairs that in today's "NOTICE ME!" world, adults are so insecure that friendship and approval are sought from kids rather than being bold and taking a stand on "I am not concerned if you like me, but I'll hold the line." I think a lot of us can read that and think, "No way, I'm not worried about my kids liking me." but if we really think about all that we reveal to them as far as who we are, we might find that isn't entirely true.

Did you know your parents, I mean, really know them? Did they share all manner of opinions and such with you, their child? I think in general there is a much more immature parenting community among us, myself included, when compared to how our parents were. We can protect our kids from mature content in books or movies, but are we displaying and sharing 'adult themes' in our conversation that undo that? I don't mean x-rated, I mean the thought patterns that an adult evaluates situations with.

It can be hard to find the balance between trying to raise adults and allowing the innocence of childhood, and I'm not able to give a formula. I just think it's worth thinking about if you have young kids at home: how is what I say impacting them? Kids are so sensitive to our opinions and they feel much more secure if we seem to love and like everyone they interact with.

What is Thinking?

Never-ending social needs

Music blares as we do our deeds

Phone is ringing while we text

Computer screen beckons to be next

Lights are glaring

Head is teeming

Not a moment for day-dreaming

Not a care to see what's true

Following blindly is what we do

Conviction is a risky dare

Why slow down to see what's there?

Keep the noise and keep the busy

Cushion excuses until we're dizzy

~J Dub 5/30/13

Doctrine or Community?

I was talking to my hubby about one downfall of churches focusing too much on community within the church (first question, can a pastor/church focus too much on this?). Of course we need fellowship and encouragement, but one concern when this is something really implemented heavily is that church can become a social gathering need-filler, and those who aren't saved might never get saved because they are just comfortable in the casual, need-filling environment. If the mentality is that kids leave the church because they don't feel enough sense of community within the church, I think it's a bit of a risk to focus too much on entertainment.

Do we want people to be more loyal to the community than Biblical truth and accuracy? Adults who value the wrong thing teach their kids to do the same. A key for people to really explore is this: what is the ministry philosophy of your church. If you've left a church that got too worldly, what was their philosophy? Finding a church similar to your 'old church' before it got way off track might be a sure way to experience history repeating itself. Churches have ideological views and ministry opinions, and they realize change must be gradual. As believers, we really need to be educated on what God says the church is for, and not be afraid to stand for that. Maturity in anything means being willing and able to break away if necessary. Yet in today's world, a community mentality is always there to help woo and keep people, whether it be home school groups, church, sports teams...we all want to belong. It's critical, however, that we belong to God and His truth first and foremost, and teach our children to enter through the narrow gate. We need to be careful to not subvert the way the Gospel has always been effective. The Word is enough and kids can subtly get the message it isn't enough when the church isn't focused on serious doctrine.

Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am God.