Have you ever had someone tell you pretty bad news that you didn't have any idea could be possible because you hadn't been given information leading up to such news? For example, a friend suffered a miscarriage and tells you the very sad news, but you didn't even know she was expecting?
It makes for a different response scenario than if you had rejoiced in the expected child and also were feeling the loss. You are still sad for your friend, and are praying, but it isn't the same as you suffering the loss alongside her.
Being vulnerable and open with friends builds closeness, in the good times and the tough. I'm sure it goes without saying that when we are a shoulder for our friends, they are more likely to be a shoulder for us. Sometimes that isn't the case though. There are people who draw in to themselves when they have a hard time, and if you are also having a go of it, they won't be paying attention to what you might need. There are people who are takers in general; apt to reach out when they need it, but don't check in with others enough to be a regular support.
Be the friend you want to have. God is good and always has shown Himself faithful in this area in my life. Culling what and who need culling, and providing what I need, whether a fresh perspective or someone else. ♥
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