How Nice Do I Have to Be?

Did the title draw you in to this post? It negates the need for a creative lead in, because yes, this post is about just what it says.

Of course we should be kind to those we come in contact with, especially in the body of Christ, but what if our being kind is misconstrued? What about when someone repeatedly reads in to normal kindness and thinks it is meant for deeper, hidden intentions? It is very tough to deal with people like this. Be as cordial as you can, but take care to not become too chatty. People who are unable to just live in the now, understanding they are not unique with life's ups and downs, or who are information miners, are, quite frankly, annoying. Let life and relationships happen naturally, and make sure you aren't contributing to the 'conspiracy theory' way of life. If someone is being nice, assume it is JUST niceness unless it has been proven otherwise.

The truth of the matter is that we are not going to like everyone. There are people that cause us terrific anxiety, or people who we know are prone to angling and manipulating-always watching.

We might want to help a person and tell them what they do that repels us and probably others, but it may not be our duty. In such cases, ask God to help them see on their own, or ask Him to send someone who can help them. When in doubt, remember the old adage, if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all. And remember, we aren't called to be friends with everyone. We are told to do good to others, regardless of how they treat us. May God help us!