Overcomer mentality: "This is hard but I'll overcome! Plenty of people go through worse and make it."
Life is too full of opportunities to waste your energy on those driven by being victims. If you are spending time with someone bent on thinking like a victim, move on. Find better friends.
You want to be someone to "find a way and make a way"! Have a dream and put in the hard work to accomplish it! Refuse to believe for one second that your situation is insurmountable. There is always a solution if you want it. It might remain difficult; it might not be what you truly wanted, but there is a path forward! Dig in and do the required work.
The truth is, most folks do not want a better way. Most want to live undisciplined lives and remain less effective or ineffective. The pain of staying the same (in debt, fat, underemployed, lazy...) is simply perceived to be less than the pain of changing. If that is the case for you, stop making a fool of yourself and pretending there is no solution by complaining about your state of affairs. Next, decide to be a mature adult and choose to learn what you need to learn to get where you say you want to get! It's not too late to become a better you, and for Christians, goodnight! If you are saying what you've said for 20 years and haven't improved, realize that is not the goal. We should be becoming more disciplined and like Christ throughout our lives, not more like our parents.
I'm not saying anyone can be whatever they want. On the contrary, the opposite is true. What I am saying is that we can be the best version of who God created us to be, and we ought to be striving toward that constantly. Are we God's or solely the product of our parents, destined to have the same life and health outcome no matter what we do? That's not the God I serve and it's not my destiny. It's not yours, either, at least it does not have to be, so get in a better groove!
Amazing fruit from Sam and Jessica's wedding
